Saturday, March 21, 2009

MICHELLE ROBINSON OBAMA'S BIOGRAPHY

Born on January 17, 1964, Michelle Robinson was raised in a one-bedroom apartment on Chicago's South Shore.

Of note is that she shared a "bedroom" with her brother, but it wasn't much of a bedroom. It was actually the living room with a divider down the middle. Michelle's father died in 1990 two years before she married Barack, but her mother is still alive and living in the same one-bedroom apartment, protected by a burglar-proof wrought-iron door and secured windows.

After high school Michelle Robinson majored in sociology at Princeton University, graduating with cum laude honors in 1985. From there she attended Harvard where she earned her law degree in 1988, one year ahead of her husband-to-be, Barack, whom she hadn't met yet but attended the same law school.

* MICHELLE AND BARACK MEET

After graduating from Harvard, Michelle accepted a position at a downtown Chicago law firm. In 1989 she was asked to mentor a summer associate from Harvard name Barack Obama. According to reports, Barack didn't have much interest in corporate law, but did have a lot of interest in Michelle.

Apparently Michelle Robinson initially brushed off advances from Barack because they were working at same firm...and he was an intern and she higher up the law firm's food chain as an associate. But love prevailed and they were married on October 18, 1992.

Interestingly Barack and Michelle waited almost seven years before having children. Their first daughter name Malia Ann Obama was born in 1999 with Natasha (often called "sasha") following two years later in 2001.








When asked about what made her fall in love with him she replied "for the same reason many other people respect him; his connection with people."

Even though her husband is the center of attention, Michelle has zero concerns about fidelity in their marriage. She told Ebony magazine in March 2006, "I never worry about things I can't affect, and with fidelity . . . that is between Barack and me, and if somebody can come between us, we didn't have much to begin with."

* MICHELLE'S ROBINSON OBAMA'S CAREER

Michelle's impressive resume includes: Former Associate Dean at the University of Chicago a member of six boards of directors including the prestigious Chicago Council on Global Affairs, the University of Chicago Laboratory Schools and Tree House Foods; Vice President, Community and External Affairs at the University of Chicago Hospitals. In this position she was responsible for all programs and initiatives that involve the relationships between the hospitals and the community as well as management of the hospitals' business diversity program.

* MICHELLE OBAMA'S INFLUENCES ON BARACK'S POLITICAL CAREER

Michelle's professional relationships were helpful when her husband in 2004, then a state senator, ran for the United States Senate, where he faced a primary dominated by some of the Democratic Party's most
powerful political families.

In this 2004 race, Obama had the support of influential black business leaders, some of whom had closer ties to his wife than they did to him. According to Newsweek, a former boss of Michelle Obama's, a powerful black woman Valerie Jarrett, chair of the Chicago Stock Exchange, served as finance chair of Barack Obama's U.S. Senate campaign.

* MICHELLE OBAMA: THE MOM & WIFE

After Barack was elected to the U.S. Senate, Barack and Michelle choose
to keep their children in Chicago, where Michelle continued her career
as well. "We made a good decision to stay in Chicago so that has kept
our family stable," Michelle Obama told the Chicago Tribune. Every
Sunday the family attends services at the Trinity United Church of
Christ.

According to reports, Michelle has mastered being a mother, career
woman and the wife of a politician. When Newsweek magazine trailed her in 2004, the reporter could not help but notice a to-do list for her two daughters Malia and Natasha that included time for "play." She is in bed most nights by 9:30 and rises each morning at 4:30 to run on a treadmill.


This level of discipline and organization helps her manage
her public and private pressures with poise. In New Yorker magazine
Michelle noted that the life of a political wife is "hard and that's why Barack is such a grateful man."But there's more to it. "Barack didn't pledge riches" Michelle explains to Newsweek. "Only a life that would be interesting. On that promise he's delivered."

SLOW DANCE

 


This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a
New York Hospital. It was sent by her medical doctor.

SLOW DANCE

Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.

Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask How are you?
Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?

You'd better slow down
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.

Ever told your child,we'll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time To call and say, 'Hi'

You'd better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.

Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.

     Michelle Obama Adjusts To D.C.
  

           First Lady Visits DC High School


First Lady Michelle Obama Reflects on Talking 'Like a White Girl'
Michelle Obama Tells D.C. Students That Stereotypes Get in the Way
By DAVID WRIGHT
March 20, 2009

First lady Michelle Obama visited one of the poorest neighborhoods in the nation's capital Thursday, hoping her example would help encourage struggling, young high school students.

It's the latest attempt by the first lady to use her bully pulpit to talk candidly with Americans, and she's sparking some compelling conversations.

Obama's remarks came as part of a career day she organized for Washington, D.C.-area students, featuring 20 other high-profile women who fanned out across the city to connect with kids. For her part, the first lady acknowledged that her childhood included struggles with language and racial identity.

And when one student asked her, "How did you get to where you are now?" she credited, in part, her command of the language.

"I remember there were kids around my  Chicago  neighborhood who would say, 'Ooh, you talk funny. You talk like a white girl.' I heard that growing up my whole life. I was like, 'I don't even know what that means but I am still getting my A.'"

Even now, Americans listen intently not just to what the Obamas say but how they say it: words, accents, even gestures.

"For many folks, Michelle Obama and Barack Obama, to a lesser extent, don't sound like as what they think of stereotypical black," said Mark Anthony Neal, a professor of African-American studies at Duke University in Durham, N.C. "And just like there might be whites invested in those stereotypes, there are obviously African-Americans invested in those also."

 


Monday, March 16, 2009

MR. PRESIDENT ENJOYING A BASKETBALL GAME!

Mr. President takes time out to enjoy a basketball game ; the America way to pass time! Enjoying a little of the activities and a beer! Hey, this is a real man!






New York Post Cartoon

  For Those Still Incensed About the New York Post Cartoon

  The National Black Agenda Online E-newsletter, 

Tuesday, March 10, 2009
 
www.NationalBlackAgendaOnline.com


  ACTION PLAN

Let's show our outrage by BOYCOTTING 
their newspaper and advertisers.

Companies that have web advertising on the NY Post:

Sprint
Kraft macaroni & cheese
Lexus
E entertainment 
Harrah's Las Vegas

Please bombard their telephones and emails in protest to their 

audacity to print such racist commentary.

To log a complaint and to ask for the firing of cartoonist email:

webeditor@nypost.com
letters@newyorkpost.com

or call:

1-212-930-8000 - Press 8
1-212-930-8100

Other Links:

Join NAACP in Asking for Firing of Cartoonist
Call to Action by Al Sharpton
Newark Group BOYCOTT New York Post
Let Your Voice Be Heard - Color of Change
New York Post Caves In - Issues Apology
New York Post Applogizes for Chimp Cartoon
John Legend Open Letter to the New York Post
New York Cartoon Appears to Link Obama to Dead Chimp
New York Post Cartoon of Dead Chimpanzee Stirs Outrage


Sunday, March 15, 2009

Morgan Freeman

In an interview with Mike Wallace.., Morgan Freeman give his thoughts on Black History Month!

Even Me



The Love Medley



The Washington Performing Arts Society's Children of the Gospel Choir

RON'S WORLD SUNDAY MUSIC
http://camron46sundaymusic.blogspot.com/

Saturday, March 14, 2009

CHANGE HAS COME!




STRAIGHTEN UP AND FLY RIGHT...
WEAR A BELT AND BUCKLE IT TIGHT!



POSTED BY KITTY

Black and White Twins

Fri, 13 Mar 2009 1:06 pm
Black and White Twins

WONDERS WILL NEVER END...
GOD IS STILL THE AUTHOR OF WONDERS!!!


Pictured:
Proud parents show off their million-to-one black and white twins


Welcoming new twins into the world is always a momentous event.
But when brothers Ryan and Leo arrived they had an extra surprise for their parents - they were born with different colored skin.
For one twin to be black and one to be white is so rare that it is thought by medical experts to be a one in a million occurrence.

Proud parents: Florence Addo-Gerth and Stephan Gerth with their newborn twins Ryan (right) and Leo (left)
Proud parents Florence Addo-Gerth and Stephan Gerth are over-joyed by the new additions to their family, which includes 18-year-old brother Randy.
Mother Florence, 35, hails from Ghana , west Africa while father Stephan is German.
Stephan, 40, said that although the couple were surprised by the children different colorings the most important thing was that the babies were healthy.




Big yawn: Ryan (left) and Leo enjoy a nap, oblivious to the sensation their births have caused
The infants caused a sensation at the Sana Hospital in Lichtenberg , Germany , where they were born on Friday last week, with guests crowding around to greet the new arrivals.
And it is not only their skin colors that are different - the twins are already revealing opposing personalities.
Light-skinned Ryan is described as a 'spirited' baby, while laid back brother Leo is a lot calmer.
Senior doctor Birgit Weber, who helped deliver the tots by cesarean section, said that in 20 years of practice this was the first time she had seen differently colored twins.

POSTED BY KITTY

Never Forget


Here she is.., Ms USS New York - Made from the World Trade Center!


Sent: Wed, 11 Mar 2009 9:04 pm

USS New York
It was built with 24 tons of scrap steel from the


World Trade Center.

It is the fifth in a new class of warship - designed for missions that include special operations against terrorists. It will carry a crew of 360 sailors and 700 combat-ready Marines to be delivered ashore by helicopters and assault craft.


Steel from the
World Trade Center was melted down in a foundry in Amite, LA to cast the ship's bow section. When it was poured into the molds on Sept 9, 2003, 'those big rough steelworkers treated it with total reverence,' recalled Navy Capt. Kevin Wensing, who was there. 'It was a spiritual moment f or everybody there.'

Junior Chavers, foundry operations manager, said that when the trade center steel first arrived, he touched it with his hand and the 'hair on my neck stood up.' 'It had a big meaning to it for all of us,' he said. 'They knocked us down.
They can't keep us down. We're going to be back.'
The ship's motto? 'Never Forget'



POSTED BY KITTY

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

OBAMA'S FAMILY MEMBERS


President Obama hugged his half-sister, Maya Soetoro-Ng, at her December 2003 wedding to Konrad Ng, third from right, in Hawaii. From left, his daughters, Sasha and Malia; his grandmother Madelyne Dunham, seated; Konrads parents, Joan and Howard Ng, and brother Perry Ng; and Michelle Obama.

A Portrait of Change
In First Family, a Nations Many Faces
Published: January 20, 2009


Posted By Kitty

Monday, March 9, 2009

CANADA HAS SOMEONE THE USA ISN'T TELLING US ABOUT!


Friday, March 6, 2009
This is a BAD GURL! CHECK HER OUT!
Kitty


The Governor General of Canada is the vice-regal, or viceroy representative in Canada, of the Queen of Canada , who is the head of state. A viceroy is a royal official who governs a country in the name of, and as representative of the monarch. Canada is one of sixteen British Commonwealth realms, all of which share the British Monarch as their royal leader. The monarch appoints the Governor General on the advice of the Canadian Prime Minister, who is the Canadian Head of Government, after which the Governor General maintains direct contact with the British monarch. There is no specific term.

President Barack Obama and Canadian Governor General Michaelle Jean walk across the tarmac following his arrival in Ottawa,Canada Thursday, February 19, 2009. Michelle Jean has been Governor General of Canada since September 27, 2005. Canada 's first black Governor General.Right ?

President Barack Obama and Canadian Governor General Michaelle Jean chat during a meeting following his arrival in Ottawa , Canada , Thursday, Feb. 19, 2009.
Executive power of Canada, Elizabeth II, Queen of Canada, is the sovereign and Head of State of Canada, and gives repository of executive power, judicial and legislative power; as expressed in Constitution of Canada:


The Prime Minister of Canada is currently Stephen Harper. The prime minister is appointed by the Governor General, who is now Michaelle Jean, but to ensure the continuity of a stable government, this person must have the confidence of the House of Commons to lead the government.


The Prime Minister of Canada is the primary Minister of the Crown, chairman of the Cabinet, and thus head of government of Canada . The office is not outlined in any of the documents that constitute the written portion of the constitution of Canada and executive authority is formally vested in the Canadian sovereign and exercised
on his or her behalf by the Governor General.Governor General of Canada in Ottawa , Canada.
Parliament of Canada Governor General Michaelle Jean and Prime Minister Stephen Harper


President Obama and Canadian Prime Minister Stephen Harper walked to a news conference on Parliament Hill in Ottawa , February 19, 2009.














Michaëlle Jean (born September 6, 1957, In Port-au-Prince , Haiti ) is the current Governor General of Canada . Jean was appointed by Queen Elizabeth II, on the recommendation of Prime Minister Paul Martin, to succeed Adrienne Clarkson and become the 27th Governor General of Canada since Confederation in 1867. Prior to this, Jean was a journalist and broadcaster on Radio-Canada and the CBC.
As the current Governor General of Canada , she is entitled to be styled Her Excellency while in office, and The Right Honorable for life; given current practice, she will be sworn in to the Queen's Privy Council for Canada after her term as the Queen's representative has ended.
Jean fled Haiti with her family from dictator Francois Duvalier regime in 1968. Her father, from whom she was estranged for many years, was a philosopher who was tortured under Duvalier regime and separated from the family for 30 years. The Jean family settled at Thetford Mines, Quebec ..
As a student at the University of Montreal Jean received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Italian and Hispanic languages and literature and, from 1984 until 1986, taught Italian studies while completing a Master of Arts degree in comparative literature. Jean attended the University of Florence , the University of Perugia, and the Catholic University of Milan to continue her studies in language and literature. Besides French and English, Jean is fluent in Spanish, Italian, and Haitian Creole and can read Portuguese.

POSTED BY KITTY Madry-Stewart

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

           Michelle Obama - Women in the Military

    

                                        Michelle Obama





Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Black Women Continue to Demonstrate Professionalism!


First of all, this is a very beautiful thing. But you would think with it being such a historical event it would have had real press coverage and we wouldn't have to be looking at the pictures from somebodies camera phone.

How beautiful...
It is wonderful to see our sister's flying planes.

African-American women continue to demonstrate professionalism,
intelligence and unlimited potential as they contribute to our overall
struggle for unlimited freedom, access and opportunity in America . The sisters on Flights 5202 and 5106 (a jet owned by Atlantic Southeast
Airlines) have proven that African-American women can do anything if just given a fair opportunity. They made history on Thursday, February 12, 2009 as the first all African American female crew.



Operated flight 5202 from Atlanta to Nashville and flight 5106 from
Nashville back to Atlanta



The crew included CPT Rachelle Jones, 2nd on right, FO Stephanie Grant, 1st on left, FA's Robin Rogers and Diana Galloway!




Posted By Kitty 3-02-09

RACISM AT BARNES AND NOBLE!



Subject: Wow! - Racism??? Barnes and Noble?

This is so sad, still stuck in time. Will it ever stop? Barnes and Noble had this as their store front display in Coral Gables FL in the Miracle Mile Mall. I am totally disgusted and I think it is important that we all find a different place to buy our books.

Obviously this is a place of extreme ignorance. How far have we really come?
Let us not be lulled into a sense of complacency, due to the recent
political success of President Obama. Racism still exists in this country. Like all things, nothing is perfect on this planet, in this world. We have an obligation to be active on issues that simply cannot be ignored.

Along these lines we should all actively spread the word of how Barnes
and Noble apparently feels about black people or at least our President.
Please forward this to as many people you think should be aware of this
and would be offended by this. Boycotting Barnes and Noble will show the economic effect of people who will not tolerate racism.


I have to thank my friend Kitty

Friday, February 27, 2009

A wonderful story for you

A wonderful story for you


A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat." “Is the man of the house home?” they asked. “No," she replied. "He's out." "Then we cannot come in," they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. "Go tell them I am home and invite them in!" The woman went out and invited the men in" "We do not go into a House together," they replied. "Why is that?" she asked. One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he > said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you > want in your home." The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!” he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!" His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?" Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!" "Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife. "Go out and invite Love to be our guest." The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest." Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?" The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!" MY WISH FOR YOU... Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy. Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it. Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength. Where there is fear, I wish you love, and courage.


Paul Carrack - Perfect Love

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

(CNN) -- In his first speech to a joint session of Congress, President Obama outlined an ambitious agenda to revive the economy, saying it's time to act boldly "to build a new foundation for lasting prosperity."

President Obama says the United States will overcome its current economic struggles.
Obama focused on the three priorities of the budget he will present to Congress later this week: energy, health care and education.
The president said he sees his budget as a "vision for America -- as a blueprint for our future," but not something that will solve every problem or address every issue.
Obama said his administration already has identified $2 trillion in government spending cuts that can be made over the next decade. Obama said he would cut spending considered wasteful, and invest in programs that will help the economy recover.

The president touted the $787 billion stimulus plan he signed into law last week, saying it will invest in areas critical to the country's economic recovery.
The United States has "fallen behind" other countries when it comes to producing clean energy, he said, but thanks to the stimulus, he said the United States will double its supply of renewable energy in the next three years.
Obama asked Congress to send him legislation that places a market-based cap on carbon pollution and drives the production of more renewable energy in America.

He said to support that innovation, the country will invest $15 billion a year to develop new technologies. Join the conversation with CNN.com and Facebook
Saying the United States can no longer afford to put health care reform on hold, Obama said his budget proposal will include a "historic commitment" to it.
Obama said he will be assembling representatives of business, labor, doctors and health care providers next week to begin discussing the reforms.
Obama also called for all Americans to commit to at least one year of higher education or career training.

"This can be community college or a four-year school; vocational training or an apprenticeship," he said. "But whatever the training may be, every American will need to get more than a high school diploma." He pointed to the billions for education -- from early childhood education expansion to college-loan programs -- in his recently approved economic stimulus package and set a goal of having the highest college graduation rate in the world by 2020.

Obama opened his speech by telling the nation "we will rebuild, we will recover, and the United States of America will emerge stronger than before."
Obama urged Americans to "confront boldly the challenges we face," saying that the answers to the country's problems "don't lie beyond our reach."
"They exist in our laboratories and our universities; in our fields and our factories; in the imaginations of our entrepreneurs and the pride of the hardest-working people on Earth," he said. Obama described the nation's financial woes as a "reckoning" for poor decisions made by both government and individuals.

Watch what Obama says about the 'day of reckoning' "A surplus became an excuse to transfer wealth to the wealthy instead of an opportunity to invest in our future," Obama said. "Regulations were gutted for the sake of a quick profit at the expense of a healthy market. "People bought homes they knew they couldn't afford from banks and lenders who pushed those bad loans anyway. And all the while, critical debates and difficult decisions were put off for some other time on some other day." "Now is the time to act boldly and wisely to not only revive this economy, but to build a new foundation for lasting prosperity," Obama said.

Obama also sought to assure people that their money is safe in the banks.
"Your insurance is secure; and you can rely on the continued operation of our financial system. That is not the source of concern," he said.
Instead, the source of concern is that "if we do not re-start lending in this country, our recovery will be choked off before it even begins," he said.
Making sure the nation's lending industry is strong is crucial to jump-starting its economy, Obama said, even as he acknowledged anger over the government banking bailout Congress approved last year. "I know how unpopular it is to be seen as helping banks right now, especially when everyone is suffering in part from their bad decisions. I promise you -- I get it," Obama said. i Report.com: How are you coping with the economy?

"But I also know that in a time of crisis, we cannot afford to govern out of anger, or yield to the politics of the moment." He said he plans a new lending fund to provide college, auto and small-business loans and a housing plan that will help struggling families refinance and pay smaller mortgages. He said he wants to continue propping up the nation's largest banks when they're in danger, but will hold them accountable for how the money is spent. "This time, CEOs won't be able to use taxpayer money to pad their paychecks or buy fancy drapes or disappear on a private jet," Obama said. "Those days are over."

While the economy was the focus of the speech, Obama also touched on foreign policy. The president said he'll soon be laying out specifics on how to win the war in Afghanistan and end the one in Iraq. "We are now carefully reviewing our policies in both wars, and I will soon announce a way forward in Iraq that leaves Iraq to its people and responsibly ends this war," he said. Meanwhile, he said, both Afghanistan and its border with Pakistan will remain a key focus.
He said his budget will pay for more soldiers and Marines, increase their pay and improve veterans' benefits.

Because Obama's presidency is a month old, the speech is not technically considered a State of the Union address. The annual State of the Union speech is delivered in the House of Representatives before members of both the House and the Senate as well as the justices of the Supreme Court, the president's Cabinet and international dignitaries.

A president's first speech before a joint session of Congress is often referred to as an "annual message" or a message on a particular topic, such as an "economic message."


Posted By Kitty 2-25-09

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

1996 -- Michelle & Barack Obama

On May 26, 1996, Mariana Cook visited Barack and Michelle Obama in Hyde Park as part of a photography project on couples in America . What follows is excerpted from her interviews with them.

MICHELLE OBAMA: There is a strong possibility that Barack will pursue a
political career, although it’s unclear. There is a little tension with that. I’m very wary of politics. I think he’s too much of a good guy for the kind of brutality, the skepticism.

When you are involved in politics, your life is an open book, and people can come in who don’t necessarily have good intent. I’m pretty private, and like to surround myself with people that I trust and love. In politics you’ve got to open yourself to a lot of different people. There is a possibility that our futures will go that way, even though I want to have kids and travel, spend time with family, and like spending time with friends.

But we are going to be busy people doing lots of stuff. And it’ll be interesting to see what life has to offer. In many ways, we are here for the ride, just sort of seeing what opportunities open themselves up. And the more you experiment the easier i t is to do different things. If I had stayed in a law firm and made partner, my life would be completely different. I wouldn’t know the people I know, and I would be more risk-averse.

Barack has helped me loosen up and feel comfortable with taking risks, not doing things the traditional way and sort of testing it out, because that is how he grew up. I’m more traditional; he’s the one in the couple that, I think, is the less traditional individual. You can probably tell from the photographs—he’s just more out there, more flamboyant. I’m more, like, “Well, let’s wait and see. What did that look like? How much does it weigh?”

BARACK OBAMA: All my life, I have been stitching together a family, through stories or memories or friends or ideas. Michelle has had a very different background—very stable, two-parent family, mother at home, brother and dog, living in the same house all their lives.

We represent two strands of family life in this country—the strand that is very stable and solid, and then the strand that is breaking out of the constraints of traditional families, traveling, separated, mobile. I think there was that strand in me of imagining what it would be like to have a stable, solid, secure family life.

Michelle is a tremendously strong person, and has a very strong sense of herself and who she is and where she comes from. But I also think in her eyes you can see a trace of vulnerability that most people don t know, because when she’s walking through the world she is this tall, beautiful, confident woman. There is a part of her that is vulnerable and young and sometimes frightened, and I think seeing both of those things is what attracted me to her. And then what sustains our relationship is I’m extremely happy with her, and part of it has to do with the fact that she is at once completely familiar to me, so that I can be myself and she knows me very well and I trust her completely, but at the same time she is also a complete mystery to me in some ways.

And there are times when we are lying in bed and I look over and sort of have a start. Because I realize here is this other person who is separate and different and has different memories and backgrounds and thoughts and feelings. It’s that tension between familiarity and mystery that makes for something strong, because, even as you build a life of trust and comfort and mutual support, you retain some sense of surprise or wonder about the other person. ♦

I have to thank my friend Kitty for this